Dating game tips
A lot of guys complain incessantly that all of this has made planning dates more difficult, made flaking easier, and added undue challenges to building up a girl’s comfort level with you. But don’t waste your energy bemoaning things you can’t change. Cavemen probably complained that their girls were so stubborn they needed to be dragged by the hair into their (literal) man-caves. And, like anything else, it requires its own set of rules. It’s a sad state of affairs that good grammar makes you look bad with girls but, when it comes to texting, it often does.
Don’t fall for the trap of trying to soften a risky statement with a smiley face or trying to manufacture excitement with all of your exclamations points!!! Some of the same things that were cardinal rules when you used to actually call girls are cardinal rules with texts: wait 2-4 days to text a new prospect (especially resist the suicidal, same-night text); suss out her future availability in person, while you’re getting the digits; and end the “discussion” on a high note—preferably by not responding. Apply the “Jumbotron Test.” It’s annoying as all hell, but girls share everything with their stupid girlfriends. Irrespective of how friendly she was the night she met you, know that she won’t respond to your texts right away, for a variety of reasons: she’s genuinely busy, she’s trying to uninterested, or she’s actually trying to ignore you.Emoticons, except when they’re absolutely necessary, make you seem timid and girlish. Keep that in mind when you’re thinking about pouring your bleeding Romeo-heart out in a last-ditch effort to regain her interest. Resist the temptation of sending a desperation follow-up text. Insulate yourself from flakiness by leaving the discussion open.If you would feel comfortable with it being projected on the big-screen at a sold-out New York Knicks game, proceed with confidence. When she does respond, wait as long, or longer, than she did to respond to you (without seeming obvious about it by doing it at precise times). When you succeed in making plans with your girl—which should be the principle function of your exchange—don’t leave the conversation in a place where you won’t have a reason to talk before date-night.This is especially important if the date is more than a couple of days away. Even if a girl is vibing you and sending you a bunch of texts, don’t correspond endlessly with her because, sooner or later, you’re going to overstay your welcome. Once you have sex with a girl, you can somewhat relax on these rules, but until then you must be almost obsessive about keeping your text game tight.For instance, leave the location or exact time undetermined, so you can re-open the discussion with something like, “ 8. What’s more, the more you say, the more likely you are to say something stupid that will dry up her panties. Even if you don’t succeed in setting a date with a girl initially, you can often resurrect the exchange a few days later with a simple, random hello-text. Conversely, if a girl is obviously not interested or clearly avoiding making plans with you, let the conversation go. This is especially the case if you didn’t overkill things in the first place.
I’ve often succeeded by sending a restart text long after she forgot some stupid thing I said or because I caught her in a hornier mood.
How can you turn an awkward first date with the man of your dreams into the relationship you’ve dreamed of?
Like it or not, text messaging has become, in recent years, the preferred method for communicating with girls.
Those cutesy, old-fashioned telephone conversations—where you actually got to know each other—have gone the way of dial-up Internet.
It’s almost to the point where getting a girl to answer the phone is actually harder than getting her in the sack.
I know some guys that have had straight-up relationships with girls without ever talking with them on the phone. It has its definite downside, but also built-in advantages.