The rules of dating my daughter
If a young woman can’t even date your son without being threatened, what is life going to be like when she marries him? A while back, Aaron Gouveia made some observations on The Good Men Project about “The Rules” that every father supposedly follows when a boy is dating his daughter.“The idea of dad polishing his gun while meeting the new boyfriend is often the lazy commentary when it comes to how fathers will handle their daughters dating.”We believe this commentary is just as harmful in perpetuating stereotypes.
Editor’s note: We have recently found out that the “Rules for Dating My Son” were taken from the blog of April Sopczak.It was a humorous take on the “Rules for Dating My Daughter.” See April’s original post here.Ten Simple Rules for Dating my Daughter Rule One : If you pull into my driveway and honk you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure not picking anything up.Rule Two : You do not touch my daughter in front of me. When you get to know our daughter, you’ll get to know us too. So be sure you’re comfortable with me seeing what you’re sending. I will ask you a lot of questions and make sure you know that I know how special my daughter is. No, I’m not going to be nosey, rude or obsessive about it But, if my daughter’s phone just happens to be laying on the table, and I see she’s gotten a text, I might take a look at it.
If you want to date our daughter, we will try to figure out what kind of boy you are, before you spend time with her.
One more thing, she does not take her phone to bed with her. But if you want to spend time with my girl, I will insist that you treat her like a lady.
[Have your child sign i MOM’s Cell Phone Contract.] 3. So, get the door for her, look me in the eye when you talk to me, and please don’t let your britches fall down so low that I have to look at your underwear band. Sure my daughter is fun, but she’s also a student, and in our house, school comes before fun. No, I won’t hide in the backseat or stalk you when you’re with my daughter, but she and I have an agreement that she checks in often with home, and lets me know where she is and where she’s going.
Believe me, good manners will help you get on her good side, and mine too. That means she won’t be going with you to the mall, the movies or out to dinner on a school night. Also, secret meetings and clandestine adventures will be discovered—I have my ways!
We know there are gender differences and gender stereotypes. Don’t you realize this is the prelude to every mother-in-law joke there is?
The list above plays off a repeating joke: “I will make you go away.” Well, with a mother like you, that might be a relief.